I have been involved with my boyfriend for 2 yrs, we live 2 streets down from one another and have known each other for over 10 years. He and I both have 15 yr old daughters from previous relationships. Although he has shown many signs of mental and physical abuse to all of us, this one tops it.My daughter just borrowed his Ipad and found Teenage Porn all over it, deflowering teen porn is his favorite apparently. Now, all of these web sites say 18+ although these particular videos he watches the girls look 14-15 .I looked at every single video..there were numerous, and the history feed was dated back 1 week.In over a week there must of been 100 searches for Teen Porn, and not one single porn search was anything BUT teen. After taking all of the information in, I went to his house and told him what I found. He denied watching it. I then left and let him sit on it for awhile. I came back, unexpected a couple hours later and he then told me that ever since our girls had their period (a couple years ago) he started watching teen porn, that he now has become addicted and is very ashamed. He understood my concern for the girls. He said that he needed help and he is very sorry. I then walked out, and he text me numerous times telling me he was just going to leave this world because he has lost everything he has ever loved, and for me to find good homes for his dogs. I had no choice but to leave his daughters mother a message telling her what I had found.As a mother, I didn't take this lightly and had no choice but to let her know, as he has her teenage friends over all the time. Upon me letting his ex know he than called me yelling and telling me that the reason he watches these is because I don't give him enough attention. The old manipulation trick has never worked with me, nor will it ever. His lack of control in this relationship has always got him to lash out, as he says… he tries to "knock me down, so he can build me back up the way he want's"… Well, that's precisely the reason why we aren't married or even living together for that matter. I will never go back, as the thought of him turned on by my daughter or her teen friends makes my skin crawl. Please let me know if I handled this the right way, as I truly think this is a serious concern.
Added (1). I know that I did handle this the right way, I guess my question is a lot of men say that this is "normal" behavior for a 43 yr old man from what I have read, that "beating off " (sorry, had to) to a teen girl is acceptable..I'd like to talk to someone who thinks it's acceptable if they have a teenage daughter as well.
Added (2). He has never harmed either of our girls, but they both get annoyed all the time by his constant hugs and need for attention, as do their friends..and he has ALWAYS been known as creepy by my daughters friends..We just considered it to be his "Needy" self.
Added (3). And I am absolutely not wanting to destroy his life, I wan't nothing to do with him. This is just the icing on the cake, as I should of left him a long time ago. His ex needed to know, as It's important for her to know because of not only their daughter, but her friends that come over..Girls are always in their underware and t shirts, and I might also add ..which I have always found weird..he walks around in his underware around them all the time.
Added (4). Also have to add that I am totally fine with porn, I am a very open person, I have no problem with it what so ever. Just wish he could of been into kink, S&M, lesbians… ANYTHING but Teens! Although every time I ever said anything about it or watched it he always said it does absolutely nothing for him and would try to make me feel like I'm some kind of perv..( which, no..I absolutely never felt bad for it… btw).
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