He surely loves me, He loved me even bore I loved him. We've been friends since 9 years and it's almost 6 years since we're dating and we've decided to marry in the next few months. Even before I told other, my parents and our pastor asked if we'd marry and that was such a joy for us.
He's very gentle, soft and anyone would like him right in the first meet. He always helped me and was by my side every time I needed him. He never hesitated to spend for me, any amount, on my clothes, shoes, gadgets(yeah, he bought me an Ipod, Ipad, DSLR, Smart phone, laptop etc) and even took me everywhere I asked for (beaches, casino etc). He helped me with cooking and household work, he even washed my clothes and massaged my body when I was sick. He fed me, gave me medicine and took very well care of me.
He respects my family and friends and he gives me all freedom, never restricts me from doing anything that I like except that he warns me and stops me if i do something wrong. He's traveled miles just to see me. Every time I changed a city, he was with me until i got settled there. He never allowed me to carry heavy luggage, and never hesitated to even carry my hand purse. Such a nice guy he is.
But a lot of times we fight and we lack respect for each other. We abuse and say hurting words to each other. Often we patch up very quickly and come back to sit together for dinner and sleep on the same bed. But since a year, he's been leaving me and not talking to me when we fought.
Added (1). This he's been doing like once every month. I know we are equally responsible when we fight but we end up blaming each other. He used to go and come after a couple of days and then promise me that he wouldn't repeat. But this time he's gone and not come for 10 days and I am waiting for him in tears. I love him a lot and i know he too loves me. He's not gone to meet his friends or family, not even gone to work but in the same city he's hiding somewhere and I don't know.
Added (2). I know he's hurt by my words and behaviour but even I am hurt by his actions. He left an sms saying he's not interested in me or family or friends or work or even in life and since then he kept his mobile switched off and has not contacted me. I know he's purposely gone away from me and everyone else but he also knows that I will be crying for him if he does this.
I accept my mistake and am repenting. I want him back… I promised God and myself that I would never hurt him or disrespect him.
Added (3). I take equal care of him, I do everything for him and always compromised and sacrificed for him. He knows that I love him. In fact, I don't allow him to spend much but he does it cos he says he loves me and I buy everything for him too.
What else do I do to get him back? Please pray that he contacts me asap.
Added (4). Often we fight on small issues which are not worth fighting for… Like for eg.Disciplining each other, complaining against each others' family, or When I call him, and he doesn't come cos he'd busy. Often it starts with me. Which he says I'm not giving him enough freedom and then he starts using hurting words against me.
Added (5). By God's grace he is fine and in the same city as I am. I know it cos he's been logging into his email accounts (I've traced the IP address through which he logged him) but ignored my emails (He emailed me his updated password yesterday).
He was at work and contacted some of his colleagues once in a while in the first few days. He actually resigned (after he left me, just a week ago) from his work about which he was talking to me since some time cause we both are moving to another city.
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